At the time of this writing CNN.com’s front page has a gripping story about a woman that was offered $10,000 to abort her surrogate child. The story is lengthy for an online reader such as myself that likes to read through a lot of information throughout the day. But the vivid piece resonated so deeply within me that I held on to every word. I was so moved by the sovereignty and gentleness of God. It is only the Judeo-Christian framework that affirms the implicit value of every life. God says that your life, my life and every life is important and meaningful. Even the years of our poor choices and difficult obstacles:
Then I will make up to you for the years That the swarming locust has eaten, The creeping locust, the stripping locust and the gnawing locust, My great army which I sent among you.(Joel 2:25, NASB)
- Selections from the article
- Finding out
With the parents standing behind her, the ultrasound technician at the hospital put the wand on Kelley’s stomach. The test confirmed her worst fears: It showed the baby did have a cleft lip and palate, a cyst in the brain, and a complex heart abnormality.The doctors explained the baby would need several heart surgeries after she was born. She would likely survive the pregnancy, but had only about a 25% chance of having a “normal life,” Kelley remembers the doctors saying.
- Perspectives based on worldviews
After a while, Kelley was reunited with the parents.
“They were both visibly upset. The mother was crying,” she remembers. “They said they didn’t want to bring a baby into the world only for that child to suffer. … They said I should try to be God-like and have mercy on the child and let her go.I told them that they had chosen me to carry and protect this child, and that was exactly what I was going to do,” Kelley said. “I told them it wasn’t their decision to play God.”
Over the years, states have developed different laws about surrogacy. Some, like Connecticut, say the genetic parents — the ones who supplied the sperm and the egg — are the baby’s legal parents. Other states don’t recognize surrogacy contracts, and so the baby legally belongs to the woman who’s carrying the baby. On April 11, in her seventh month of pregnancy, Kelley and her daughters left for one of those states — Michigan. While she was gassing up her car to leave, her lawyer informed the parents’ lawyer about her plans.
- Surprise Twist
Kelley hadn’t heard from the biological parents in months when in May, about one month before the baby’s due date, the parents filed in Connecticut Superior Court for parental rights. They wanted to be the legal parents. They wanted their names on the birth certificate. The legal papers included a stunning admission: the wife was not the baby’s genetic mother — they’d used an anonymous egg donor.
- A Home for Baby S.
Baby S. — her adoptive parents are comfortable using her first initial — has a long road in front of her. She’s already had one open-heart surgery and surgery on her intestines, and in the next year she’ll need one or two more cardiac surgeries in addition to procedures to repair her cleft lip and palate. Later in childhood she’ll need surgeries on her jaw and ear and more heart surgeries. Her adoptive parents, who asked to remain anonymous to protect their family’s privacy, know Baby S. might not be with them for long. The cardiac procedures she needs are risky, and her heterotaxy and holoprosencephaly, though mild, carry a risk of early death, according to doctors. But that’s not the way they see it. They see a little girl who’s defied the odds, who constantly surprises her doctors with what she’s able to do — make eye contact, giggle at her siblings, grab toys, eye strangers warily. “S. wakes up every single morning with an infectious smile. She greets her world with a constant sense of enthusiasm,” her mother said in an e-mail to CNN. “Ultimately, we hold onto a faith that in providing S. with love, opportunity, encouragement, she will be the one to show us what is possible for her life and what she is capable of achieving.”
- Finding out
The good cost of parenting
I must posit my statements with the disclosure that I’m not a parent. However it’s clear to me that there is a cost to parenting and it is a good cost. Selfishness must die so you can protect and raise a child to the best of your ability. Though Baby S. was not Crystal’s biological child, she was a devoted mother. She ensured the birth of the child and was committed to finding the child a permanent home. She did not have money like the biological parents but, she had love. God orchestrated for love to dictate who would have the final say for the baby in a similar way to Solomon’s judgement:
So the king answered and said, “Give the first woman the living child, and by no means kill him; she is his mother.”(1 Kings 3:27,NKJV)
What is available for purchase in life?
What can we buy in life? Can you buy and genetically plan a child that will fill a need? Or is storge received through the guidance of a creator with a perfect plan that includes the introduction of a child into a family in many ways. I do not wish to minimize the difficulty of childbearing obstacles but to maximize the creator of Life. Eventually Leah came to that conclusion after seeking Jacob’s love with her first 3 births:
And she conceived again and bore a son, and said, “Now I will praise the Lord.” Therefore she called his name Judah. Then she stopped bearing. (Genesis 29:35, NKJV)
The role of the church
This is an area for our light to shine like never before. It takes a supernatural power that cannot come from any other philosophy or religious worldview to sincerely love and care for a special needs child. It’s not the call for all but to those Christians who are called, the answer should be yes. It will also build actual ministry around our pro-life stance. See my article called Ladies and Gentlemen: Introducing the Church’s Abortion Ministries
Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.(Matthew 5:16, KJV)
Salvation and healing
A healing is taking place in the lives of the biological parents. According to the article, the biological father agreed to give up his parental rights as long as he and his wife could visit Baby S. He has even held her. That is a testimony in itself because initially the enemy had them overwhelmed and burdened. My hope is that they will see the truth and power of the God that was behind their change of opinion and healing journey.
The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.(2 Corinthians 4:4, NIV 1984)
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